Control: Dispelling the Misconceptions That Prevent Change

A quick review on our synopsis of Charlie Harary’s amazing Change series.. In our last installment, we spoke about how mentality bridges inspiration and action. About how important mentality is to the whole concept of change. Charlie now addresses misconceptions that create a mentality that prevents us from changing.


The first, and one of the biggest misconceptions that prevents change, is that we’re not in control of or responsible for our lives. It seems there’s always someone else at fault: our parents, our boss, our spouse, the President. No matter how difficult our circumstances may be, it is imperative that we remember that we are responsible for our own lives.

The famous psychologist Victor Frankl was arrested and sent to a Nazi concentration camp where he lost everything, his entire family, all his worldly possessions, and every vestige of human dignity. He witnessed hell on earth. After three years living with and witnessing the responses of his fellow sufferers he determined: “Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of human freedoms is to choose ones attitude in any given set of circumstances. To choose one’s way.” Our approach and attitude toward circumstances is the one freedom that can never be robbed.

Previously, we discussed that there is a space between inspiration and action; mentality. Similarly, there is a space between stimulus and response; the power to choose. In that power lies our growth and freedom. The more we blame others for our circumstances, the more we let others dictate our responses, the more we relinquish that power. And giving up the power to choose is tantamount to giving up the power to change.

Stop blaming others. Take control, assume responsibility and get back in the drivers seat. If you’re responsible, then you have the power to choose and then you have the ability to change. What are you waiting for?

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